Sex, Anyone?

So I just finished watching, or more like finished being disturbed with, this documentary on heterosexual porn.
I wanted to share some thoughts/questions with you all and start a conversation maybe.
Okay here we go. And this is all my thoughts, where i am now. THIS IS NOT TO BE TAKEN AS THE TRUTH. Just more of what im believing today.

1.) I believe that all people have the capacity to be attracted to all gender and sexualities. Attraction is, however, not always sexual, but can be experienced as an energetic pull between two beings. IN our culture, people often confuse attraction as always being sexual. I dont think it always is, especially if we think of "sexual" as it is meant in the normative discourse.

2) Sexual orientation is not biological, it is socially constructed. I dont believe people are born "gay" or born "straight". I believe that people are born with sexual desires that are impacted by a sexually repressed society, and all the of the sexual assault and trauma that comes with that. I include "homo-phobia" and heterosexism ( as well as ableism and all the other isms) as sexual trauma, since it is an ideology that robs many of thier capacity to express "same "sex desire" by constructing stigma and repression of that desire. I also think it contributes to polarizing sexual attraction into two narrow categories, of "gay" and "straight".
Two identities that function in popular mythology only through the denial or dismissal of the complexities of our attractions, sexual desires and our histories.

3) sexist gender constructs inhibit many from being able to embrace thier desires. I believe that alot of gay men are attracted to women, and gay women attracted to men, but cannot see themselves being thier queer selves in the context of a heterosexual relationship and thus render the union impossible.
In other words, if Im a "feminine" man who is attracted to a "feminine" woman, but because I cannot see myself embodying normative heterosexuality or cant see myself being my normal gay self with her, then our relationship cant happen. Gender gets in the way. It inhibits our imagination!

3) "Gang-Bang Porn" or porn in which multiple men are penetrating or performing sex with a woman, is, in my opinion, a bonding ritual between men in which women are used as vessels for men to attempt to connect with a sense of intimacy with each other that patriarchy has not allowed them too. many men who embrace this ideology do not allow themselves to experience deep vulnerability and emotional bonds with each other, ( because it might look gay) and therefore that energy is redirected into bonding through mutual explotation or sexual acts with women. Aint no fun if the boys cant have none.

4.) I think its interesting that alot of heterosexua identifiedl women will have sex with women as long as thier male partner is present. It seems to me that many heterosexual identified women use thier boyfriends as vessells for them to explore thier own sexual longing for women. Whats interesting though, is that those same women cannot, or will not allow themselves to be intimate with a woman without a man present-is it because he becomes the justifier? He helps the straight card still stand?

I dont know. My heads spinning. More thoughts to come. Sorry for all the mis-spellings!